Social Cutback

There's been a whole lot thought through on striking that right distinct balance within the reality of life and the circle of connections experienced on a virtual platform. Well at least for me, maturing and growing older brings about a couple of checklist that either needs striking out or adding in, pursuant to the fulfillment of life's content. Having once led a youthful life in those younger days, it was rather needless to understand why everyone wants to be part of that social connection, smack right in the media of things, very much so it becomes an in-trend. They constantly emphasize that it's part of keeping up to date on the latest happenings of one's development in life, and perhaps that is something no one can truly quite deny. To be really honest, it has always been that love-hate relationship when it comes to sharing my social life on the internet. Yet so much so, it does come with an irony seeing that the medium used in writing this is an integral part of that social influence, in the media of things. Looking deeper, it really draws down to how many would perceive it. Being commonly grouped in the middle neither here nor there, i'm naturally more of an introvert, so most often than not, the kind of thought thinking process based on are usually better expressed within myself or fairly so for those who have a flair for such similar thinking alike.

Writing socially has been more of a life changer through the years, because it helps me better articulate my thoughts in a more constructive manner that i'm least fond of. Simply to put it, i express best writing than speaking but don't get me wrong, i speak a whole lot with the ones i am comfortable with, and that many wouldn't disagree on, but either way honestly, writing is very much preferred. It's usually focused on the thoughts i share through writing instead of fully describing and relating it to myself on a more focal front. Putting my figure in the spotlight was never main priority with words. Writing expresses the way i am as a person and the ambitions carried along with it but that doesn't divulge too much on a daily affair. It goes without saying that i'm particularly restrictive about sharing a little tad too much.

All in all, the kind of social connections I've had to date has very much been arguably well defined and it took me some time to fully grasp and truly understand it. Back then, there was never a concise answer to the decision i have made with the self-embarkment into this highly socially connected medium, but it would be a white lie if i said i wasn't in it to expand my social connections by making new friends. The social world, it used to be really that simple. Like you could either be finding a lost pal you've once had, or be discovering new people to befriend with. Probably then, what happens right after is up to your own discretion.

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"Unlike a drop of water which loses its identity when it joins the ocean, man does not lose his being in the society in which he lives. Man's life is independent. He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of his self." - B. R. Ambedkar

The tables eventually do turn with time, but it pretty much wasn't due to the nature of advancement in technology on the social reel, but very much so on the perception embedded in our minds alike. We've all got so used to the idea of expansion in the forefront of our own social circle, that it very much no longer has a true identity to what you used to find value in. It certainly does so eventually transcends into something we often see as a commonality these days, it becomes our way of life whether we like it or not. The basis of being on a platform where you can find all your friends on a common ground is just something you can't afford missing out. From what used to be all trendy, naturally becomes a habit and much sadly so, molds into a basic necessity in life, constantly finding the need to keep up to date with the ones in your social circle. Just like anything else, there's always that zest of good and bad in it. It sure does come with an abundant of positive perks in multiple aspects such as perhaps your last known location isn't compromised if something bad happens to you and need rescuing, that the world knows you're out and exploring new discoveries be it with a friend or family, or maybe you could be indulging yourself on a new dish you've recently stumbled upon. That list goes on with limitless boundaries. Yet unknowingly it technically put ourselves in a vulnerable state of conflict in the way we're brought up to think.

The level of sensitivity in the way we live our lives are tweaked by what many would say, the media. Would you post the most inglorious photo of yourself on the social world or something decent that's been well thought through on how your social circle will react to it? Does your audience become a priority on what you feel seemingly so that they should agree and envy on before uploading and sharing it? If all that doesn't justify the sort of mindset you have in common to what's been mentioned, then perhaps ever asked yourself what's the intention of sharing that piece of moment? The ones who deny would often find themselves in a spot where they often mention that good things needs sharing. That all these good things are so much so affiliated to you as a focal point of talk, that a whole lot of self filtering is needed to match your outlook with that perceived personality and character you bring about, that people are often deceived with. If you can't clearly state your true intent because it was just part of wanting to share it, that's where the whole social media play comes in. It naturally tweaks you to want to execute the act of sharing just so the world can see. Then what about the negative things? You've had a bad day, and now the whole world's got to know about it. Or when someone turns you off and so much hate is spread on there, and that whole clique of naysayers will come bulging in adding smoke to the fire. The community sees right deep through your emotions and the form of expression often puts you in a state of vulnerability, and when someone decides to criticize the point of things, it'll get to you and that's the last thing you ever need getting by. Being affected by the thoughts of others.

What we're connected to, it's honestly a fair spread of the good and bad, but we're all changing at times without realizing about it. Social media comprises a whole lot of communication through mostly the sharing of photos and videos. We just want everything captured. It'll be best when that is accompanied with tons of likes ain't it? What used to be an effective means of identifying a crime suspect on the loose, is now part of an integral part of our daily lives. You become that evidence that everyone looks for when they need a query resolved. Since we live in a socially connected world now, we often find that urge and need to be in the heat of things, part of the development. A difficult compromise isn't it?

Most often so, you become your own brand and social identity, that you end up advertising and promoting your own life, something that used to be all so personal and private merely a decade back. Nonetheless, the social circle is the best place to introduce something new that needs attention and that heed wouldn't fade so easily with the integration of marketing and advertising which can be widely seen almost anywhere and everywhere you seek to discover on the internet. Definitely something that will be looked upon in the near future on how the website can better brand itself on such social platforms.

Sometimes it goes beyond just social attention, and effective filtering of such content is pretty much not fully achievable unless you remove the medium altogether. After all these years, really understanding how this all plays out within the mind has brought me to realize that perhaps this ain't me. I'm a strong believer to my lifelong aspirations and interests but i lack the desire to want to tweak it just a little bit because of how the social world appeals to it. Somehow i'm ready to leave all that behind for i've seen on a more personal front what needed seeing, and felt what needed experiencing. With such a limited social circle bounded around me, the move isn't too much of a big deal. In order to not make it feel too much of a stunt, leaving relevant social media mediums won't be instantaneous. A consistent effort to take that one step at a time pace, bidding goodbye to the social community such as Instagram. It was always about finding the right time ever since omitting myself out of Twitter years back.

Now you may ponder, why don't i do the same for the blog, like since it's part of that social connection to the world. Moments written and created through here was always something i regard as a recollection of life. That for one day if i ever need retrieving of past memories and moments on what it felt like living, this was that passage. It was always the similar thought that goes around my head, for what if one day i had such memories erased or forgotten. Being on here gave me a better sense of connection to sharing life's worthy moments to the world. Where i feel less constrained to actions and thoughts in relation on how moments are being expressed through words. The inactivity of consistent updating on social hits like Instagram and Facebook explains very well to why expressing thoughts on there ain't my kind of thing.

As previously mentioned, this move wouldn't be instantaneous but it's just my way of saying thank you to the ones who have once previously crossed or walked paths on a social level. We'll let everything ease off slowly till the day i fully opt out of relevant social media platforms in early 2019. I envision that this website is and will be my main medium to the social world for I'm contented with what's left of it.